Some other info (the journey that brought me here)
My name is Sherrie Marchi. I am a trailblazing pioneer of permission — not that you need anybody’s permission You’d be surprised to learn how many of us are unaware we’re waiting for permission to do something…something really important.
Most of my life was spent seeking approval and needing to know I was liked. This resulted in me over-apologizing, second-guessing and always putting others first. Those around me learned to expect I would always yield and absorb the shock, discomfort or inconvenience – that they wouldn’t have to. “Oh, you guys go have lunch – I’ll stay here and answer the phones”. I gave so much. How could they not like me?
But, that’s not how it went down.
As it turned out, most of my co-workers didn’t respect me, they didn’t even consider me because I didn’t respect or consider myself. I kept all the traits that embarrassed me, caused me to feel judged, singled out or feel vulnerable pushed way down where nobody could see them. Including me. I was ashamed of the real me and worked really hard to hide it.
Of course, we can’t hide our true selves forever. Over time these traits pushed back, wanting to be seen. It became more and more difficult to hold them down – it was like holding a fully inflated beach ball under the water. After 40 or so years it became exhausting. I worked at a jobs where I had to reign in my creativity to conform to others, further compounding my frustration. I felt so out of balance, trapped, angry, resentful, disrespected and hopeless. I remember being told that, “I was very difficult to be around”. My go-to mood was hostility.
After some years, and quite by accident, I became acquainted with Marsha, who happened to be a life coach. I told her, “I didn’t need any F***k**g life coaching!” Of course, the events that followed miraculously put me into the position being a client of Marsha’s. I still don’t know how that happened.
Working with Marsha as my coach was exactly the catalyst I needed to wake up to the awareness of my own involvement in what my life had become. I couldn’t have known how incredibly valuable that experience would be before we started.
One day, while coaching with Marsha, I said to her, “I can’t see a way out of this pattern. I’m stuck in here with no off-ramp!”. She said to me, “What if you could create your own way off?”. That was a defining moment for me. That’s when I realized that if there isn’t an off-ramp when I need one, I must bust through the guard rail and create one.
So, that’s what I did. I changed my life. And let me realize I want to help others change theirs.
In 2010, I enrolled at Coaches Training Institute and began training to become a wholehearted, Co-Active Coach. It was through this process that I found my work in the world, partnering with people to create lives beyond their stale, outdated limitations. If we’re going to be here on Earth, up, walking around, working, driving, being in relationships, using up resources, cooking dinners and going to little league games, why not feel alive and be at our best in doing it, right?
Rhetorical question? Not so much. I am often saddened, although not shocked by the number of people I talk to that feel like they’re walking dead. There is only one road – wake up, make breakfast, make lunches, shower, go to work, come home, make dinner, clean up, help with homework, go to bed, rinse and repeat. Somewhere near the junction of predictability, exhaustion, debt, obligations, and who knows what else, our light dims. Our bodies keep going, but something inside dies. Dreams? Inspiration? Creativity? Life force? All of the above?
If you’re a human adult in America, it’s possible some of this rings true for you, too. Everyone could use a transition coach at some point in their life. I use the word unconventional because sometimes finding your off-ramp requires some unconventional solutions, certainly different ones from those that got you here.
Seeking help is a sign of leadership. You don’t have to do this alone. Imagine that a vibrant, thriving life is within reach, and you still get to have your routine – maybe even a new improved one, while your light shines brightly.
There is an incredible adventure awaiting you. Give me a call, or connect with me here. Let’s see if we’re a match.